Dear Yvette #2 Valentines Day Special

Dear Yvette,

If you let a girl know you want to take your friendship to the next level,
but they are not completely into it,
do you try harder, or stop trying altogether?

-Trying In FLA

Dear Trying,

If you've broached the subject with your friend
and she seemed to have reservations about pursuing
a romantic relationship with you,
then try to find the source of her ambivalence.
Some of the most enduring romances have bloomed
from buds that started in friendship,
but both people are required to be willing participants.
So, ask her directly about her concerns and be clear
about your hopes and intentions.
If you've already done this,
and she still seems not to be "completely into it,"
then stop trying.
Being hard of hearing is almost never endearing
and could damage your existing relationship.