Dark And Preppy

Dear Yvette #2 Valentines Day Special

Dear Yvette,

If you let a girl know you want to take your friendship to the next level,
but they are not completely into it,
do you try harder, or stop trying altogether?

-Trying In FLA

Dear Trying,

If you've broached the subject with your friend
and she seemed to have reservations about pursuing
a romantic relationship with you,
then try to find the source of her ambivalence.
Some of the most enduring romances have bloomed
from buds that started in friendship,
but both people are required to be willing participants.
So, ask her directly about her concerns and be clear
about your hopes and intentions.
If you've already done this,
and she still seems not to be "completely into it,"
then stop trying.
Being hard of hearing is almost never endearing
and could damage your existing relationship.

Dear Yvette

It's finally here!

The long awaited guest blogging by the Burnt Sugar Goddess.

Every Thursday you can expect Yvette to answer your question about sex, love and fashion. Video to follow when she's motivated enough to buy a camera.

PreppyDude™

Dear Yvette

My boss is having a dinner party at his house and my girlfriend
when she dresses up, always exposes 90 percent of her breasts. 

Help!

Jason from Ontario

Dear Jason,

Décolletage at a dinner party (even a corporate dinner party)
is not necessarily distasteful, but revealing 90 percent of the
girls really is a bit much.  This is a topic I would address
with your girlfriend, carefully.  Avoid saying anything that
might perceived as criticism, and try to spin the fashion
request positively.  Begin by telling her that she always
looks wonderful and that you look forward to having
her by your side at dinner, THEN follow up by asking if
she minds dressing a bit conservatively for this occasion. 
Tell her that you suspect that the evening will be more,
rather than less, formal.  Feel free to toss around the
word "stuffy".  Also, she'll appreciate your bringing this
up with her well in advance so she has some time
to plan.

Dear Yvette,

My boyfriend and I are in our 20s
and yet our sex life is already dull. 
Is this relationship doomed?

Beth from Cleveland

Dear Beth,

A dull sex life can be a symptom of things that
have nothing to do with sex.  Are you and your boyfriend
compatible in other ways? 
Do you have lots of things in common?
Do you communicate well? 
Do you trust each other?
Are you bored with each other, outside the bedroom?

Boredom in the bedroom can also be caused by
shyness in the bedroom.  Are you comfortable asking each
other for what you want?  Do you wish he would do things
that he's not doing intuitively?  Are you actually
talking about your sex life with each other?

I suspect that your sparkless love life has something
to do with one or more of these things.  Talk about it with him.