If
you let a girl know you want to take your friendship to the next level,
but they are not completely into it,
do you try harder, or stop trying
altogether?
-Trying In FLA
Dear Trying,
If
you've broached the subject with your friend
and she seemed to have
reservations about pursuing
a romantic relationship with you,
then try
to find the source of her ambivalence.
Some of the most enduring
romances have bloomed
from buds that started in friendship,
but both
people are required to be willing participants.
So, ask her directly
about her concerns and be clear
about your hopes and intentions.
If
you've already done this,
and she still seems not to be "completely
into it,"
then stop trying.
Being hard of hearing is almost never
endearing
and could damage your existing relationship.